I have never written about Sept. 11. I still don’t know what to say except that I cannot forgive myself for my initial reaction:
Thank God I have a daughter and not a son.
I honestly thought we’d be at war. That the Department of Defense would vacuum up any male between 18 and 25 who didn’t have flat feet or a good lawyer.
Even if they decided to draft young women I knew that Abby would be safe because a neurological illness had left her disabled.
Seconds later I felt incredible shame. What about all the parents of draft-age sons? What must they be going through right now? In addition to watching the towers fall again and again on TV, they had to be imagining their boys framed by terrorist crosshairs.
I will not do a full-blown essay about 9/11. Given the horrors of the past decade, anything I wrote would sound as hollow as pebbles dropping into a bowl.
It really doesn’t matter where I was on Sept. 11, 2001. I’m not one of the ones who has suffered in a true and terrible fashion. I lost no relatives or friends in the events of that day, or in the endless conflict that has ground on since then.
My sorrow is more abstract. I grieve not just for other people’s pain, but for what I see as our collective loss: that we are less tolerant, less kind, less accepting of difference. That the sight of olive skin, black hair and a beard makes people frown. That as recently as four months ago an airline pilot would refuse to fly a plane because two of its passengers were Muslim – even though the men had been screened twice and were screened (including a luggage check) a third time after the pilot aborted his takeoff and returned to the gate.
That last is staggeringly ironic, since those two men were on their way to a conference about “Islamophobia.”
I specifically avoided posts about 9/11 in this roundup, figuring you’ve already had your fill. Here instead are articles about things like the American Jobs Act, decluttering, no-knead bread, no-tech vacations and the resumption of sexual relations after childbirth.
You did it. Not everyone can at I Pick Up Pennies
Politics and gender imbalance online: Women are not participating at Tiger Beatdown (read the comments, too)
Is the American Jobs Act the stairway to Heaven? at Kathryn’s Conversations
Take off and leave the technology on the coffee table at Notes For My Next Life
25 things to throw out today at Wise Bread
What will you get from Social Security? at Get Rich Slowly
Incoming student etiquette at Grumpy Rumblings of the Untenured (forward this to your freshman)
Loyalty cards: Providing rewards or threats? at Wealth Informatics
12 bad-ass blogs that will improve your life at Rather Be Shopping (yep, I’m mentioned with regard to my posts at MSN Money Smart spending — I love it when people call me “bad-ass”!)
I made bread. It was easy. You can, too at Cheap Healthy Good
Dead vagina walking at I’m Gonna Kill Him (I heard excerpts of this read aloud at BlogHer 2011 and nearly lost it – bladder control, that is. Damn, this woman is funny.)