Heading back to Phoenix tomorrow.

Those who follow my daughter’s blog already know what happened recently: Her husband broke one heel and sprained the other quite badly.

Tim is feeling extra-crummy about the way-preventable incident (see “The whole story” for details) and Abby’s feeling overwhelmed by needing to take on Tim’s share of household responsibilities in addition to her own, and to her full-time job.

For those who aren’t familiar with my daughter’s situation, both she and her husband have chronic health issues. Some days she has more spoons than others.

After she e-mailed me about what had happened I wrote an “oh noes!” sort of note in return. As a P.S., I said “let me know if you want me to use one of my buddy passes and come do a little heavy lifting.” She wrote back something along the lines of, “Were you serious about that? How soon can you get here?”

And that, Phoenix-area readers, is why I’m heading south once more.


I leave super-frickin’-early tomorrow. To get in line (standby travel) for the 5 a.m. flight, I’ll need to be up by 3 a.m. at the absolute latest. Fortunately we live close to the airport. Wish me luck with not getting bumped. If I do, I’ve got the whole day to try and catch another flight to Seattle.

Of course, then I might get bumped from Seattle to Phoenix. Pooh. But only once in all my years of standby traveling was I bumped to the point of “no more flights today, sorry.” Here’s hoping.


Let’s chat, Phoenix

My plan is to do, well, the heavy lifting (cleaning, cooking, dog walking, litter box scooping) as well as the driving (since Tim obviously can’t) to places like the supermarket and the drugstore. If time permits, I’ll see if Abby has any projects she’s been putting off; last time I visited, I helped her catalog a bunch of clothing she wanted to donate.

I also plan to work outside their home every day, almost certainly at a nearby Wendy’s restaurant (2640 W. Thunderbird). What I’ll do is put it up on the blog’s Facebook page that I’m there and will be there for a few hours. Anyone who wants to stop by and chat about money (or anything else).

Can’t make it during the week but want to say “hi” in person? E-mail me at SurvivingAndThriving (at) live (dot) com and we’ll synchronize a weekend meet-up.

I will say that while I’m sorry about Tim’s injury, I’m looking forward to some more days in Phoenix. The weather there sure beats Anchorage’s at this time of year. It was 2 degrees when I got up this morning. But at least it’s not Fairbanks. (The predicted high for Saturday in that northern city is minus 24.)

But of course I’m also torn because it means being away from DF again, and so soon. I just got back from Phoenix in early January. He’s being #sobrave but I feel sad about it.

One of his plans is to have “survival dinner” while I’m gone: that is, to eat up the No. 10 can of chili from the basement. The can is getting older and he figures to replace it on his next trip to Costco. So it’ll be chili every day; with me gone, he can be as combustible as he wants.

Hope to see some you in the next week or so.

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  1. Safe travels.

  2. Here’s wishing you luck on your standby! You’re such a good mom! πŸ™‚

    Also, maybe add “getting that back-up key” to your list of things you might be able to help out with… Poor Abby and Tim!!

  3. I read about Tim’s mishap on Abby’s blog and I shudder just to think about it. I hope that Tim heals as quickly as possible.
    I wish you the best of luck with your buddy pass – may you not get bumped!

  4. You are an amazing mother. I have chronic health issues too, and wish I got that kind of support from my parents and mother-in-law. Bless you, and happy, healing thoughts to Tim and Abby.

  5. Safe travels, Donna! Wish you were making your visit under better circumstances. Unrelated, yesterday a friend and I were talking about our favorite PF writers and your name came up. I was like yeah, I KNOW HER! πŸ™‚

  6. Cathy in NJ


    Prayers ascending for your safe and efficient flight and for a speedy and complete recovery. Enjoy your time in the sun too. We have a snowstorm here in Jersey today: beautiful, blustery and cold.

  7. I’m a bit late to wish you luck in getting your flights – at least, I hope I am! – but enjoy the sun and spending time with Abby and Tim.

    Man, if I lived closer I’d offer to swing by and wash dishes or cycle a couple loads of laundry. A friend did that while I was taking care of a very sick relative, and those little gestures meant the world to me! Glad you’re able to be there for them!

  8. Safe travels! What a Mom won’t do for her kids πŸ™‚

    Enjoy the warm weather πŸ™‚

  9. You are a good mother to help out.

  10. Really hope that you made it to your daughter’s in fine time and thanks for all your writing over the years. Thanks to you we are ‘surviving and thriving’ too !

    • Donna Freedman

      Thanks. I didn’t get bumped off either plane and now I’m looking at clear skies — and clear sidewalks, rather than snow-covered ones.

  11. BEST…MOM…EVER!!! Hope you have a nice visit.

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