Staycation at Abby’s house.

Having escaped the warmth and humidity of Orlando, I am now experiencing the warmth and extreme dryness of Phoenix. While in Orlando I learned that I am no longer a theme-park person. (More on that below.) Also learned that four adults in a rather small hotel room is a recipe for anxiety; so was the need to schedule daily activities. By contrast, visiting my daughter is like a staycation, albeit at someone else’s house.

Eating whatever and whenever I choose. Reading until late at night and getting up when I feel like it, rather than rising when park activities (or other people’s getting-ups) decide.

Coming and going as I please, when I please. Sitting around and catching up for hours, with Netflix or Hulu on in the background. Doing small chores to give her a break, including helping tidy up the place and prepare snacks for a game night. (Why is it always easier and even fun to clean other people’s houses?)

A staycation, in other words.

It’s not that I won’t ever leave the house. We plan to browse the Savers thrift shop on Monday (half-price day) for a big glass bowl or Pyrex dish, as she wants to start making yogurt. We  plan to hit Bobby Q’s for ribs and sides. I hope to hang out with Sonya Ann, a regular reader from the MSN Money days. And on Friday, we’ll go to see “Die Hard: A Christmas Story,” presented by the All Puppet Players. (Yep: A plush John McClain shouting, “Yippee-cai-yay, mofos!”)

Mostly, though, it’s like any other visit to my daughter: hanging out. 

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Monday miscellany: Social Security follies edition.

Planning to claim Social Security in the near future? Be careful what advice you take.

“Few retirement decisions are as critical, or as easy to get wrong, as when and how to you’re your Social Security benefits,” writes Liz Weston.

The rules are so convoluted that sometimes employees don’t quite understand them. They’re supposed to educate, rather than advise, yet stories abound of people filing for Social Security based on information that’s not in their best interests.

In an article called “Don’t let Social Security steer you wrong,” Weston shares the story of a man who was eligible for a now-defunct rule called a “restricted application.” The person who processed his application outright ignored the man’s request and signed him up for plain old retirement benefits instead.

That guy was able to fix things. Not everyone is so fortunate: A report from Social Security’s Office of the Inspector General estimates than 9,224 widows and widowers over the age of 70 lost out on $131.8 million because they didn’t get the right advice.

Feeling a little nervous right now? I certainly am.

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On the road to Homer.

Moose © by natalielucier

Sorry to have maintained radio silence for so long. I’ve had to take some time to grieve because my daughter had a second miscarriage. She found out she was pregnant while I was visiting last month, and would have been due close to Christmas.

That was May 11 – their fourth wedding anniversary and two days before Mother’s Day.

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